The first step is to penetrate the clouds of deceit and distortion and learn the truth about the world,
then to organize and act to change it. That's never been impossible and never been easy. ~Noam Chomsky

Monday, May 13, 2013

Adoption Truths Part V: Sometimes things fall apart and you have to ask for help

Update - we made our goal of $8,500. Anything given over that amount will be put towards the cost of mediation and our legal fes. Thank you!

When our friends at Project Hopeful asked last week if they could intervene and help us raise the funds we need to bring AJ home from Haiti, I was nervous.

I don't want anyone to think for a minute that I write this blog as a lead up to asking for money.

But truthfully we need your help.

We need to reproduce all of our adoption documents and our son's passport in Haiti.

"WHAT's that?" you ask. You've never heard of this situation?! Neither had we. How could a family be completely done with their adoption, legal parents of a child, adoption fully paid for and yet unable to bring him home?

If you are like me, you probably need the long story before you make a decision about donating your money. And that is completely legitimate. There are a lot of fundraisers out there and a lot of people in need asking you to fund their cause.

You can read more of the story HERE under our Fundraising Tab.

We hope that, after reading our story, you will support us for this simple reason: we will not sign a gag order to protect our former adoption "agency" and their facilitator in return for the easy release of our documents.

We feel that signing a gag order would NOT protect other children, Haitian first families or prospective adoptive parents in the future. 

We have decided that our discomfort asking for financial help, the work of reproducing AJ's adoption documents and the extended time it is taking to get him home is worth the freedom to tell the truth.

Our full story will be part of the Adoption Truth series which you can find here. Please keep coming back to check for updates. It is taking time to write and requiring significant prayer and mentorship from close friends and family.

Thank you for anything you can give. 

Our first meeting...March 2012.

Together again after a year, March 2013


* "Agency" is in quotes because it turns out that the group we signed a contract with was unlicensed to operate as an adoption agency. We did not know this when we signed on. It was put in writing to us that the "agency" was licensed.


  1. Excited to see God move! Love you friend!

  2. I am so proud of you guys. We are praying!


  3. having gone through the experience of hiring a local investigator, local and US attorneys, and spending nearly 3 months in country - I can only wish that you didn't have to go through this.

  4. THANK YOU! Chosing what is best for the all of Haitian adoptions over what is easiest for your family, very few people would be so selfless and wise. I'm proud of you and joining all of the others in prayer that your sweet boy will be home with you soon!

  5. Heroic.
    And I love the picture of J and AJ on the beach - beautiful.
    Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, Brave Woman.
    Proud to call you friend.

  6. You rock and God will bless your obedience!

    Natalie from Nashville:)

  7. Such an incredible woman.... Brave and strong and smart and full of dreams... and, just in the interest of keeping it real, an excellent mentor when it comes to shopping and styling hair.

    A, I continue to be incredibly proud of you. Hold that gorgeous head up high and move forward. You've got it girl, you've got it.

  8. I have been a lurker for a long time-glad to see/hear your voice again via your blog and so sorry to hear about your current experience. The process for me was was such a roller coaster emotionally and physically that I can only imagine what your family is going through. I hope you don't mind-I have added your blog to my blog list-not that I have a large audience by any means, but maybe someone could read your story and possibly help out.

  9. I am praying for you! TRUTH WINS, EVERY TIME. I am proud that you are standing up for the truth. Adoption has it's dark sides, as I am finding out by experience, too.

  10. Just a quick note to wish you good luck with your adoption. Sounds like complicated. AJ is adorable.

  11. Just found this link through a friend's link. Godspeed to you in bringing your boy home. Sadly, I'm not as principled as you. If it were me, I'd spend the 8k hiring a "cleaner" to take care of that agency.) May Mr. Dimples be home with you very soon.

  12. And please consider adding Paypal as a payment option, if possible.


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